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How does a mom of 3 teens, trauma coach, and therapist handle parenting during the Covid-19 crisis? 

On today's bonus interview with Cristie Ritz-King, we talk about:

  • How to create self-care boundaries with your kids when you're all home 24-7
  • How to honor your own inner turmoil while showing up as caregiver for little ones
  • What IS trauma?
  • How do we manage traumatic triggers on our physical and emotional health?
  • What to do when you blow up at your kids (because it will happen)
  • How to help our kids when we notice them acting out or withdrawing... and more.

Get more from Cristie here:

https://cristieritzking.com/

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If you’re experiencing surprising feelings of grief lately, you’re not alone. It’s normal during the upside-down times to examine our lives, question our decisions, or feel like we’ve lost our dreams for the future. Remembering our values, our morals, and our spiritual compass will help us to stay moving forward.

Finding a mentor can also help us to move forward by providing clarity and connections, which are especially important right now in this time of unrest. Learn how to find a mentor and get the most out of that valuable relationship in today’s episode.

You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/246

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All across our nation, we are consumed with staying healthy in a crisis, and we’re just in the beginning days of the coronavirus crisis. Even in the time of this pandemic, there are many things we can do to support our mental and physical health. We need to focus on the basics and return to the fundamentals. Think about what habits can keep you healthy and grounded. Remember that you are the author of your life, so pick up the pen and choose your path forward to tell your story. 

Michelle Aspinwall is the creator and founder of A Skin. She’s a coach, speaker, author, and skincare creator, and like me, she has Hashimoto’s. She shares how she experienced a health crisis and became her own advocate. Michelle shares how to take care of your autoimmune issues in times of overwhelm, along with the mental and spiritual work in recovering from health issues. This is an inspiring interview about helping ourselves through transitions when the world feels upside down. 

You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/252

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How can we best manage our outlook and prepare for a positive future during times of global change and pandemic? 

Tap into your innate creative resilience.

What is resilience:

the capacity to recover quickly from difficulties; toughness.








Post Traumatic Growth:

When you bounce back even stronger after trauma, physical illness, etc.

 

The post-traumatic growth inventory

To evaluate whether and to what extent someone has achieved growth after a trauma, psychologists look for positive responses in five areas.

1: Appreciation of life

2: Relationships with others

3: New possibilities in life

4: Personal strength

5: Spiritual change

Creativity: 

Creative Resilient people face stressful times with staunchness, making meaning of hardship and looking for lessons and improvise solutions from thin air. 

 

Creative resilience is your most important resource during times of crisis, change & transition. Transition, which is what we’re all going through right now, is the psychological process people must go through to come to terms with new situations.

We live in a world of constant change. Nature is an example of constant birth, growth, death, and renewal. Understanding the cycles of creation will help us thrive in change, rather than fear it. While transitions can be painful, they are a source of creativity, growth and transformation.

I don’t believe we can experience a transformation without undergoing a psychological transition, and if we can cultivate resilience, we can proceed  with a sense of adventure on what Joseph Campbell described as a Hero’s Journey (illustrated at the top of the page).

“A hero is someone who has given his or her life to something bigger than oneself,” according to Campbell’s definition. “A hero ventures forth from the world of common day into a region of supernatural wonder: fabulous forces are there encountered and a decisive victory is won: the hero comes back from this mysterious adventure with the power to bestow boons on his fellow man.”

We are all on a hero’s journey through life, and if we want to find the boon, or the gift that lies buried in the abyss, we must be willing to embrace great difficulties that are a prerequisite to transformation.

CREATIVITY: the use of the imagination or original ideas, the ability to come up with solutions, the use of tools to create something new, or fix something old, even making it better.

 

In Victor Frankel’s book Man’s Search for Meaning, his memoir about surviving the holocaust;

Frankl said we can discover meaning in life in three different ways: (1) by creating a work or doing a deed to help others;(2) by experiencing something or encountering someone; and (3) by the attitude we take toward unavoidable suffering.

 

How creativity helps us in times of stress:

Express yourself creatively (for many of us, creative expression is like oxygen for our souls)

When my coaching clients tell me about times of transition, I ask what they could do to nurture themselves to reduce stress. Creativity is always at the top of the list, along with getting enough sleep, exercise, proper nutrition and being with friends or family.

Creative expression has the power to heal emotions, and nurture the soul. When we enter the flow states of complete absorption in a creative process, we open our awareness to new perceptions, and new perspectives. Creativity is something you can control. When you take time out of time to create, you shift your field of attention into something generative and life affirming.

FINALLY, IMPROVISING: 

Improve, in any form, is creativity where we are fully present and stay flexible.

Resilient people are masters of innovation and resourcefulness. They have the capacity to improvise and to create bricolage: creative problem-solving using a variety of materials that happen to be available.

The Apollo 13 mission (launched April 13, 1970) is a dramatic example of improvisation: When the spacecraft was well on its way to the Moon, an oxygen tank exploded, scrubbing the lunar landing and putting the crew in jeopardy.

Working with Mission Control in Houston, the crew used their lunar module as a “lifeboat.” Using spare parts and spacecraft canisters, the astronauts improvised a method to reduce the carbon dioxide concentration in the spacecraft.

How might you improvise at home or at work? What resources do you have available to you, to utilize in new ways?

DISCOVER YOUR VALUES HOMEWORK:

http://alexandrajamieson.com/values

EXPRESSIVE WRITING PRACTICE: 

Imagine it’s 5 years from now and you feel really good in your life. Your work, your relationships, your health are all in a solid, satisfying place. You look back on this workshop, this moment, as a turning point in your attitude, creativity, and self-compassion. What happened for this current time of crisis to be a catalyst in you creating a beautiful life? What story do you tell people 5 years from now about what you did and who you became during this time of turmoil? Tell the story now - write for 5-10 minutes.

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How important is your self-care? Do you make it a priority? In today’s show, you’ll meet a creative woman who wants you to care about your self-care! She lovingly creates plant-based products that make people heal and love themselves. You’ll be intrigued by her inspiring story and her connection to healing herbs, all of which began with a single bar of soap.

Krystle Robinson-Hershey is the creator of Sage & Elm Apothecary, a company dedicated to providing customers with plant-based beauty products. Krystle is dedicated to her holistic approach to creating unique products to enhance self-care. A trailblazing entrepreneur, Krystle is also a wife and mom to five children.

You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/244

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Where do you prefer to work? Part of being in alignment with your core values is how you work, where you work, and with whom you work. I like to work at home sometimes, but I still use a  fantastic coworking space, and I occasionally resort to the tried-and-true coffee shop, where the low caffeinated hum of others around me brings peace and comfort. Most important to me is that I can work in a place that feels welcoming, cozy, and comfortable--and my coworking space gives me that. I’ve found that a coworking space provides fewer distractions than working at home, and I love the benefits and amenities. If you’ve never tried a coworking space, then today’s show will open your eyes!

You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/243

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Today we are discussing a hard topic. It’s a subject that many people try to ignore, but the truth is that we can all do something to help in the fight against sex trafficking. Get in a safe space and join us if you’re ready to listen to a woman who turned the problem into her mission.

Kristen Harness has turned her early mess into her message. From a childhood of abuse and homelessness, Kristen has made rescuing the victims, girls and young women who get caught up and forced into prostitution and sex and human trafficking, her mission through her organization, Extended Hands of Hope.

You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/242 

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Today’s show focuses on a topic that doesn’t get enough attention, which is the relationship between early childhood abuse and our ability to be happy, healthy, and successful adults. Let’s take a deeper look with my guest.

Dr. Rosenna Bakari is an author, advocate, and scholar. She’s been busy writing about breaking the silence of sexual violence and helping adult survivors of childhood sexual abuse. Rosenna is not just a survivor but a thriver. She’s also a psychologist who knows how to help people process their early trauma and find the strength to thrive. I’ve found that the healthiest response to childhood emotional wounds is also the rarest response, which is to feel in order to let things go. Acknowledging the feelings is the way to try out a new set of patterns and ways of being. Rosenna is a role model and voice for those who need support through the different flavors of trauma. Her book is Too Much Love is Not Enough: A Memoir of Childhood Sexual Abuse. 

You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/241

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Fertility is a topic that comes up frequently for anyone who works with women. Infertility is a problem that many people face, and it affects men as well as women. Many people you see every day are going through struggles to build their family, although they wear a mask that makes everything seem OK. Today’s guest calls infertility “the silent epidemic,” and the numbers of people affected are simply astounding.

 

Andrea Syrtash is a relationship expert, journalist, and the founder of Pregnantish, the first media site devoted exclusively to helping singles, couples, and LGBTQ humans navigate fertility treatments and infertility. She’s been featured on Oprah’s OWN Network, FOX, and other TV outlets, and she’s written books titled He’s Just Not Your Type (And That’s a Good Thing), It’s OK to Sleep with Him on the First Date, and Cheat on Your Husband . . . with Your Husband. Because of Andrea’s long, tough journey, she is committed to breaking the taboo of infertility and elevating the conversation about what it takes to start a family for millions of people today. Her work is both interesting and controversial. She’s here to share her story of 18 fertility treatments for eight years, and how she finally met her baby through a surrogate. There are a lot of misconceptions and stigma around types of fertility treatments and infertility. Because this affects so many women, I wanted us to have a deep and meaningful conversation about infertility, the options, and how we can better support friends and family members. We’ll discuss how Andrea kept up her creative, on-air personality while undergoing an intense physical and emotional process behind the scenes. We’ll also discuss the judgments and unwelcome advice that people encounter as they go through infertility, along with the legal ramifications that make things even more difficult. 

You can read the full show notes at www.alexandrajamieson.com/240

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Mid Life Success Stories

Life doesn’t end at 30, no matter what your younger self believed.

It’s so harmful to believe the story that we have to be a big success by the time we’re 40 or we’re failures. 

We live in this cult of youth that discounts the wisdom, beauty, and experience that age brings. 

WORSE: it makes us middle-aged mamas (and papas) lose faith in ourselves, stop following our dreams, and quiet our own fierce voices.

As an antidote to the false story that once you cross a certain arbitrary age you’re “past your prime,” here are some amazing stories inspired by this viral tweet that went out a couple of weeks ago: 

Tweet on Mid Life Success Stories

Here’s just a couple of stories I loved from the thousands of comments people shared on Twitter:

TWEET

AND, here are stories shared from a few womxn in my Her Rules Radio Crew Facebook group from ya’ll!

Fan shares

AND, here are a couple of success stories from my own beloved Creatrix Clients that are sure to inspire you!

Heather Hudak just published her first book, Nourish, Heal, Thrive at aged 50!

Heather Hudak Author

Michele, who came to NYC for a retreat with me, fell in love with the Embody Dance class we had and reconnected with her love of ballet. She found a private teacher, and performed a solo recital for her 60th birthday - dancing en pointe! (which is a huge accomplishment at any age!)

Ready to get inspired and shake off the “too old,” or “it’s too late” vibes?

I’m getting ready to organize 3 new retreats, and you’re invited! These retreats will be inspiring, clarifying, healing, and motivating. They’ll be filled with other womxn who believe that no matter your age (25? Great! 65? Awesome!), your time is now.

 

Interested in an upcoming retreat with Alex? I’m planning virtual and in-person retreats for small groups of womxn this spring!

Just share a few details with me here so I can get you the details as we make plans:

http://bit.ly/springevents2020 




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I made an Instagram post over last weekend applauding the landmark decision of Meghan Markle and Prince Harry to pull back from royal life and do what’s right for them. I’ve taken the liberty to make Meghan’s name a past tense verb that means to value yourself enough to leave a situation in which your authentic self is not welcomed or wanted. Don’t we all need to be more like Meghan in making the power move to set rules and boundaries that work for us?

Geneva Peschka is a director, creative producer, and incredible documentary filmmaker. Geneva knows the value and the healing power in telling our own stories. She co-directed Unspoken and is the director/producer of a short documentary series titled Women. We’ll talk about the importance of creating space and allowing people to tell their stories. It’s what life is all about. 

Show Highlights:

  • Geneva’s work as Community Manager of The Wing and her ten years in NYC
  • How Geneva realized she wanted community to pursue her creative endeavors
  • How working at The Wing helped fuel Geneva’s creative work within a framework of collaboration
  • Examples of how Geneva nourished and replenished herself when she found herself out of balance
  • Why you need to have an honest conversation with yourself about what brings you joy
  • How Geneva dove deeper into healing by becoming a Reiki practitioner, learning to set boundaries, and being dedicated to replenishing herself
  • How Geneva has learned to handle the pressure by recognizing what serves her well and what doesn’t
  • How Geneva is learning to be more gentle and more patient with herself
  • How the documentary series, Womxn, highlights a diverse group of women who share thoughts and experiences
  • Geneva’s inspiration for Womxn and her purpose of awakening people and sharing authentic experiences in celebration
  • The process, form, and structure of the interviews in the Womxn series, along with the collaborative community that made it possible
  • Womxn---the unique spelling that symbolizes inclusion
  • Unspoken, the short documentary featuring Emma, a teen with autism
  • How Geneva observed how Emma and others with disabilities were treated in public
  • How the passion for storytelling was awakened in Geneva by seeing her mother be strong in speaking up and speaking out
  • The therapeutic effect on Geneva in using her voice and talents to help others be seen and heard
  • The rewarding impact in sharing and celebrating other people’s stories
  • Geneva’s words of wisdom about sharing your story: “Just start. Have a vision. Ask people for their ideas and their help. Be gentle with yourself. Take your time, don’t burn yourself out, and dream big.”
  • Upcoming projects for Geneva: expanding the Womxn series, a feature documentary, and an animated series

Resources:

https://www.genevapeschka.com/

Geneva’s Womxn series on Vimeo:

Unspoken short documentary: 

 

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I’ve seen a common theme emerge repeatedly with my coaching clients of recommitting to our bodies and falling back in love with self-care. Energy, strength, and physical vitality are necessary for us to create the life we want, so what are the things that bring joy to you in your body? No matter where you are on your self-care journey, every moment is a blank-slate opportunity. You can recommit to wellness and your body right now. You deserve it!

 

Robin Bronk is CEO of the Creative Coalition, where artists are inspired to use their voices to make the nation better. We all owe the Creative Coalition a debt of thanks. Back in 1989, actor Ron Silver brought together a group of writers, actors, producers, directors, and designers from the entertainment world and founded the Creative Coalition. They are people who want to use their skills and savvy to stand up for the arts. Federal funding for the arts, free speech, and arts education are causes that the Creative Coalition supports.

 

Show Highlights:

 

  • How and why Robin became involved in the Creative Coalition
  • What the Creative Coalition does to help the arts thrive and flourish in our country
  • The fascinating phenomenon of an actor’s scope of influence
  • Our responsibilities within our community
  • How arts funding and education are beneficial to our kids
  • How the Creative Coalition presents the facts and figures in advocating for the arts before Congress
  • Why the arts should be important to all of us
  • How the arts open up a world of possibilities to all types of students while connecting them to other subject areas
  • What we can do to become better advocates for the arts
  • STEM vs. STEAM

 

Resources:

 

www.thecreativecoalition.org

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Thank you for being here! I feel truly thankful that I get to share this work with you all. Thank you for your time and attention. I see your commitment to your work and your creative expression, your health, relationships, and putting in the time and resources to be fully expressed in this short time we have here in this lifetime. Your work matters. Your work is important...I believe that.

What’s a Creatrix? What’s Creative Leadership?

Creatrix is an old word that means "she who creates; authoress; feminine founder."

Creative Leadership means…leading in a way that embraces life-long learning; this leader is someone who handles change with creative thinking skills and a “I can figure this out” attitude; this leader is as committed to their own autonomy, free from past limiting beliefs, as well as committing to connecting to others; this leader commits to bringing their unique voice and vision to the world in the service of their own abundance and the uplifting of others.

4 things we'll cover in this episode:

  1. What Creatrix Leadership IS, why it's important in this fast-changing economy, and how to grow yours in 2020
  2. The remedies for Imposter Syndrome, "being seen," overwhelm, confusion, and fear of judgment (it’s all about shame)
  3. Connect with your Inner Authority for self-trust and get better at making good decisions, fast.

For more, sign up for the Creatrix 2020 Training, January 8th, here: http://bit.ly/creatrixleader2020

http://bit.ly/creatrixleader2020

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